What a shame… the series is over.
We have received so much feedback about our recent teaching series, “Shame: Facing the Flames from within.” As I talk to more and more people who are becoming aware of the presence of shame in their lives, I find that the skill of good coaching is becoming seriously handy! When someone is trying to unwind a personal problem with you and they are quick to ask you for your advice on what to do – it’s time to slow things down and ask questions rather than blurt out your solution to their problem. As we seek to be safe people who others can be vulnerable with, and tell their shame stories… the coaching posture is gentle and helpful.Our posture with people who just want to feel better or make their problems go away is often“telling” them what to do, what to think, what to feel or try to give them “the right answer.” This is not an empowering posture, and we need to begin to rethink how we respond to others.
When we take on the posture of asking questions, we take on more of the role of a coach. The good thing about coaching is that the coach doesn’t have to be a professional in any given field to help. We aren’t talking about you taking on the form of Yoda, the Jedi master, who knows all the answers to all of life’s questions. Coaching is not about “telling,” but about “asking.” When we ask the right questions and help people discover the truth the Holy Spirit has already put in their hearts, we can empower others to make decisions for their own lives, to own their own choices and move forward not as victims but as proactive overcomers.
This might sound too optimistic, but in the past decade as I have intentionally used this method to help people through all sorts of problems – The Lord has never failed to reveal truth and next steps to people. Sometimes the conversation takes longer or requires more information, but the results never cease to amaze me. Jesus really does want us to get clear on our future, on our calling, on the situations we find ourselves in now and the transitions that do so much to shape our hearts for the road ahead.
Are you tired of trying to figure out what “good advice” looks like?
Have you grown weary of conversations that seem to circle the airport and never land?
So… why not join us for the coaching workshop and learn to help your friends, family and others in your life in tangible ways?
This workshop is coming on November 9th and 10th… Friday evening and Saturday 9am – 4pm. Click the button below to sign up and prepare for a fun time of learning and “aha” moments as I teach you the skills you need to love others well.
The answers to these questions and a new path is waiting to be discovered at the Coaching Workshop.